… What is it?
… How Do I Respond?
… Others Most Certainly Are
Some 150 years ago, Ralph Waldo Emerson put it this way “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”
What Emerson was saying is that the way you show up, your presence, can so over power what you say that your words have little or no impact or perhaps even a negative impact. That’s not a very pretty picture.
“True wisdom comes from asking the right questions.” Clayton Christensen
… How do I respond?
Compliments are a good thing, right? Everyone likes to be recognized for a job well done. Especially from someone whose work you admire. They are a special form of positive feedback. However, many of us find accepting a compliment with grace to be a major challenge. Too often, our first instinct is to dismiss the compliment. For example, the recipient:
Daniela Aivazian is the author of today’s Tuesday Reading. She is an Organizational Effectiveness Specialist in Stanford University’s University IT organization. Her essay first appeared as a leadership program reflection earlier this year. [Dani may be reached at email@example.com.]
The MOR Leaders Program employs a leadership model which calls for leaders to focus on
. . . Ask for it!
On any given day we will each need help from others in one or more of our life-circles – our work, our families, our church, and our social and community activities, etc. And, we also will have opportunities to extend our help to others. So, why then, do we have such a hard time asking for what we need and helping when and where we can?
… men and women can both be "victims" and "perpetrators"
Turn on the radio or television, read a magazine or newspaper, surf the web. You’ll likely hear or see a story about sexual harassment or assault or mischief on the part of someone in power – a broadcast personage, a media executive, a politician, etc.
… an emotion to be expressed in all seasons
Bill Hogue is author of today’s Tuesday Reading. He is senior clinical professor of information science and executive consultant for enterprise initiatives at the University of South Carolina where he previously served as USC’s first Vice President for Information Technology and CIO, and he is an executive coach in the MOR Leadership Programs.