I grew up in a home where apologizing for my wrong actions, for example, taking and hiding my brother’s toys, was required. All that it took to trigger the apology was a stern look from my Mother. As I got older and didn’t have the prompt from my Mother, I want to believe that I either recognized my hurtful behaviors or responded to prompts from the people around me and apologized to the wronged party. However, I know that I must have missed many opportunities when I should have apologized for wrongs both small and large and did not, either because I didn’t know how I’d been offensive, b
In the November 1, 2016 Tuesday Reading, Always on Stage, readers were invited to respond to the question
What’s the most important, or effective, way you lead by example?
This week we celebrate Thanksgiving Day, traditionally a day of giving thanks for the harvest (that provides our food) and for the preceding year. History and tradition suggest that this celebration goes back in the United States at least to a 1621 feast in the Plymouth Colony celebrating a good harvest in the Colony’s first year. This tradition, with both civil and religious roots, has continued. Since 1941, the holiday has been celebrated each year on the fourth Thursday of November.
In last week’s Tuesday Reading, Triggers, Once Again, I pointed to a set of questions Marshall Goldsmith asks at the end of each day. These 20 questions include ones such as:
· Did I do my best today to make progress on each of my priorities for the day?
· Did I do my best today to provide time to meet the needs of my staff?
Last year, shortly after Marshall Goldsmith’s book Triggers: Creating Behavior That Lasts, Becoming the Person You Want to Be was published, I focused – in the August 11, 2015 Tuesday Reading, Triggers – on a practice he discussed there that has brought significant discipline into his life. (Goldsmith is one of the best-known executive coaches in the U.S., if not, perhaps, the world.)
Always on the Stage
We say over and over again “Leaders are always on the stage.” Why? Because someone is always watching. Someone is always taking the leader’s behavior to inform their impression of her or him and as an example of how to behave. Good or bad, it’s OK. We think, if it works for her or him, it’ll work for me; if he or she can get away with it, so can I.
Do you have one?
We’ve all encountered them. The one, or two, or more bad apples on our teams who have little or nothing positive to say about anything, regularly upset and disrupt others, and make work miserable for everyone.
Today’s Tuesday Reading, “Don’t waste your time looking back. You’re not going that way,” is an essay by Mark (Bo) Connell, Assistant Dean for Hospital Operations, Texas A&M University, College of Veterinary Medicine & Biomedical Sciences, Texas Veterinary Medical Center. It first appeared earlier this year as a leaders program reflection.
Do You Have One?
Career limiting habits (CLHs) are habits, repeated behaviors that keep us from greater success or enjoyment in our careers. And, really, in all aspects of our life. Research has shown that most of us are aware of our career limiting habits but have not made much progress in addressing them. Why? Partly because it is really hard, partly because we don’t understand the cause, and partly because the cure we select doesn’t address the real cause.