[Today’s Tuesday Reading is from Annette Beck, Director of Operational Services and Collegiate IT Director for University College at the University of Iowa. Annette may be reached at annette-beck@uiowa.edu or via LinkedIn.]
My father recently passed away after a long struggle with Parkinson’s and COPD. Dying from these diseases can sometimes be a long, painful process to endure…and witness. As I was experiencing this journey, it occurred to me how important it is to lead with empathy. Sure, leading for “work” is important. Work must get done. Perhaps more importantly, is leading for “people.” We spend about 1/3 of our time with colleagues. Many times, these colleagues may not be our closest friends or confidants. Yet, they still care about our well-being. When one of your colleagues is experiencing hurt, it likely impacts them in different ways. Maybe they aren’t as effective, maybe they seem aloof some days, maybe they retreat in a world of their own, or maybe…you don’t see an outward change at all.
Leading “for” people means that you understand that your team has a life outside of work that may impact them at any time. This is where empathy kicks in for a good leader. Recognizing that it is almost impossible to personally be 100% ALL the time matters. Even your strongest performers at work have personal lives. During my father’s journey, I felt myself and my emotions changing from day to day. I felt sadness for him, for me, but I was also anticipating relief for him when he passed. It was important that I allowed myself to “feel.” My colleagues allowed me to do this. They knew I was struggling some days and allowed me to “not be perfect” every day. Good team leaders recognize and allow this. Many of us expect to be “perfect” in the workplace, we want to be a good team player or a good leader ourselves. But…it is ok to pause and not be a superhuman. Those who allow this for both their team members and themselves are the best leaders.
Here are my own personal suggestions, and a couple additional articles for more ideas from empathy.com and HBR.
Finally, I make it a practice to never say “I know how you feel” because each person’s journey is just that, their journey. Instead, you can say things like “I understand how you must be feeling” or “please feel free to share how you are feeling” or “please let me know if there is anything I can do to make your journey easier.”
Thank you to my University of Iowa colleagues for having empathy and leading during my recent struggles. I appreciate!
. . . annette
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